problem children

[Ditzy di]

Arghhhhhh I am having such problems with my son at his new Junior school, he has learning problems and even though me and my husband felt it would be best if he was kept back in infants for another year the school thought it best he moved on to juniors, and so now my son cannot cope and his behavior is off the charts he has become rude and aggressive two things my son has never been. I really don't know what to do anymore it is so frustrating as once you pass your children to there teachers you have no control over what happens to them!! so yet again it is on to the educational psycologist and the peadiatrician (spelling??) I only hope someone can help!! sorry sad mum rant over:(

[dizzy3112]

Oh... I really feel for you... I wish I had an easy answer, but all I can say is, stick with it... get the professionals involved and be a pest about it... oh, and rant away... that's what we're all here for!
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[Ditzy di]

Thanks hun xx

[DeadlyPoison]

surely the school should hve listened to you, even now they could still put him back a year after seeing his behaviour?

id say make an appointment to see the head teacher or year head at the school and talk to them and see if you can work out a system ?

[Ditzy di]

I have just had a meeting with the school we have loads of plans in place now, they still wont keep him back a year but have agreed he needs statementing in april rather than 2 years time and I have an appointment with the educational psycologist and paediatrician coming up in the next two weeks so fingers crossed I might get somewhere this time! although they probably think I'm a child beater now as whilst at this meeting today I tried to hug my boy and ended up smaking him in the mouth making his already wobbly tooth fall out!! Blood everywhere! I am such a great mother!!!!

[DeadlyPoison]

HA HA im sorry i shouldnt laugh but that is funny!
atleast he didnt have to wait for it to fall out!!!

hehehe

i hope all goes well hunni

xxx

[Goonv8]

As a teacher and a parent of two little ones, I know it can be really hard when your child is having difficulties. It sounds like he now has an IEP (individual eduction plan) and he will be referred to as either school action (SA) or school action plus (SA+) this has to happen before he can be statemented. Even if he is not statemented, he will be entitled to extra support in small groups and 1 to 1. Does he have a behaviour book between you and school? I have a large number of children with EBD (educational and behavioural difficulties) in my class and keep a daily log that celebrates the good things as well as the bad. I also try to speak to parents at the end of school daily. The reason for this is to present a working partnership to the children that I have that develops consistency between home and school. If your school isn't doing this, then you are within your rights to ask. More than anything, it lets you know what's going on and keeps you in the loop.

If a child is struggling to work at the level of his peers, its very rare to hold them back a year. I've always been against it, as I feel it can lead to self esteem issues later in their school life. A good school that's worth its salt will differentiate work according to your son's needs and ensure that he works in small, guided groups.

Hope this helps.:o

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[/QUOTE]they probably think I'm a child beater now as whilst at this meeting today I tried to hug my boy and ended up smaking him in the mouth making his already wobbly tooth fall out!! Blood everywhere! I am such a great mother!!!![/QUOTE]

Oh you wicked wicked woman you should be locked away!!! lol only joking hun, bless you that really wasn't the time or the place was it. Things like that happen to me all the time. My little boy has just started speaking properly now and my god does that make things difficult lol I took him shopping the other day and he was being well a bit of a nightmare really, anyway he sat himself on the floor and would not get up (you know the way they do when you try and stand them up and they curl their legs up....grrr) so I tried to pick him up with one hand (my other was holding the basket of shopping) and he shouts very loudly "Mummy your hurting me, please don't break my arm again!" Needless to say I have never broken his arm but my God was I red in the face when I had half of Tesco glaring at me and whispering under their breath about me being such a terrible mother. Oh yeah and to top it off the little sod then ran away laughing at the top of his voice "love you lots Mummy, you can't get me".
Kids eh!:rolleyes:

[Ditzy di]

hee hee glad I'm not alone bless um they do try us sometimes and always in public!!